More of the same

Colin remains in hospital, where his body continues to chug along and his mind is kept lively by reading books (My Life in France by Julia Childs is his current focus) and chatting on his cell phone to his various family members and friends. It will take some time to find a long-term care home placement for him, but that is the plan. 

Meanwhile, Anne is accommodating to life on her own at Willow Way. From our frequent conversations with her, it seems that visitors come and go often (some bringing shopping, others doing chores around the house, some just visiting). Last week, she was taken out by friends to celebrate her 86th birthday, which took place officially on Nov. 4th.

In Winnipeg, Val and Amanda are both in various stages of a regular head cold. We should be through it all by next week, here's hoping anyway. 

Winter has arrived with some snow and some cold. Nothing like poor Buffalo got and thank goodness for that! 

The new garage is wonderful: We drive in and out, using the automatic door, with great pleasure. 

I don't remember Dad with a beard, but he grew one for many years. I do remember him smoking, and all his various attempts to quit, which he eventually did in the early 70s when we lived in England. 

Mum celebrating her 86th birthday with friends recently. 

Our car parked, as we used to do it. 

Our car parked, as we now do it. It's a tight fit, not an inch wasted, not a problem. 

The structure itself in all its not-yet-sided glory. That will come in the spring. 

Colin update

Colin remains in hospital, now in a 2-bed room, and holding his own. Today, Anne and her good friend Connie procured a new cell phone with a call-all-you-want monthly plan and took it to Colin; he is now, once again, in touch with the outside world. He likes chatting on the phone. 

Where this is all going, we don't know, but going home to Willow Way is no longer an option; he just needs too much care. So. Anne is adjusting to life without full-time nursing duties, and Colin waits to see if a nursing home bed comes open sooner...or later. 

In the mean time, I've found a few photos from Colin's younger days. He was a truly dashing young man. 

Colin, circa 1961 (maybe '62). Katy on left, Amanda on right. 

Colin with his lovely Aunty Marjie; she is the aunt who rode on the back of his motorcycle (see below) and who was an entrepreneurial importer of coffee. Here is the accurate story, courtesy of Anne: "Aunty Marjie's coffee business was special. the coffee was called Blue Danube, a Viennese type roast that included figs; only high-class grocers stocked it, for the enjoyment of connoisseurs, so it was a fairly limited market. Marjie and her brother Geoffrey started the business and created the roast  from their memories of coffee they had  enjoyed in Vienna." A woman ahead of her time. This photo is from 1948.

Colin looks younger here than in the photo by the fireplace. Mum tells me this photo is from 1942. 

Updates: Colin and garage

The fall has been lovely, but winter is coming. I must get the windows washed! 

Colin is in hospital, having become weaker and weaker over the past 10 days or so. I was in Edmonton for a long weekend in late October, and he was just managing at home with phenomenal care from Mum and the homecare workers. This weekend, Katy was there and Dad couldn't manage getting in or out of bed on his own anymore, so the paramedics took him to a local  hospital. We now wait for news about his next move, possibly into a nursing home (the paperwork for which has been underway over the past week; thank goodness for this timing). Stay tuned. 

Val continues to recover and re-enter regular life. She doesn't have the stamina she would like and is easily tired, but she pushes on and is teaching two yoga classes a week, plus is deep into another session of teacher training at the yoga studio. Life goes on.

On a more mundane front, our garage is coming along well. These pics show where we're at. The roof should be up and on this week; we won't side the building til the spring. 

Our latest project

All continues along here. I am busy with quite large classes this term, and Val is teaching two, sometimes three, yoga classes a week. We are both tired and convincing ourselves we are enjoying this return to a normal pace...

And, just in case, we might be bored without all those endless medical appointments, we've decided to finally have the garage torn down and rebuilt by Paul Willems and his crew, Paint 'n Hammer (who also did the gorgeous paint job on our house in July). 

Wow. When a structure comes down, it sure opens up the property: Right down the alley to the next block! Tomorrow, a security fence will go up, and then, I guess, the old pad will be ripped out and re-poured and construction can start once that is cured.

Let's hope it all comes together before any major snow falls! 

Ours is the terra cotta house on the left: New paint job, old garage

Hey presto: Garage gone! For those of you who know the house,
note the new green awnings we splurged on after the paint job. 

From just outside the back door...
all the way down the alley to the next block

The backyard seems quite big without the garage. 

New awnings close-up

Val's birthday

Val's birthday weekend began with an appointment Friday afternoon at CancerCare to have her port removed - yahoo, no more need for that! Yvonne came over for a fun dinner that evening. Saturday we tidied out the garage (oh joy), had leftovers for supper and watched another episode of Foyle's War, a BBC WWII drama we are really enjoying. This evening we're having dinner with Randa. In the meantime, my parents and sister have called, and Erika dropped by this morning with a tray of birthday cookies. And the weather is sunny, so it's a good day here at our house! 

Birthday cookies from Erika, Eva and Jacki. Delicious! 

Val playing Scrabble last weekend in the gazebo at the cottage. She won. 

Val's Birthday Eve gift was a Scrabble mug. If she finishes the drink,
she gets a Triple Letter Score on the bottom of the mug!

Val's Birthday gift was a cordless rechargeable snow blower. She can't wait for the snow to come! 

Val at the cottage last weekend getting ready to head outside in the drizzle. Look at those curls under the hat! 

Update

Val met with Dr. Brandes (medical oncologist) earlier this week. He is very pleased with her current condition.

The CT scan was clear, her blood work numbers are good, and her skin has healed remarkably well from the vicious radiation treatments back in May. Her fatigue remains significant, which is the long-term effect of the radiation treatments likely aggravated by the Letrazole (estrogen-blocking drug). In addition to having little stamina, Val has also experienced persistent joint pain and a sense of her emotions being flat and depressed. Dr. Cooke (radiation oncologist) called her overall state "Letrazole toxicity".

Dr. Brandes suggested Val go off Letrazole for two weeks and assess her state at that time; two weeks usually is long enough, he said, to reduce the side-effects and give the patient a sense of whether or not the drug is the cause of those effects. At the two-week mark, Val will consult with Dr. Brandes and determine how to proceed.

It seems, then, that the past year of surgery, chemo and radiation has done what it should: Removed the cancerous tumour and killed off obvious signs of cancer cells in Val's body. What her current condition means for the long term is, of course, not 100% clear. However, Dr. Brandes suggested she had a very good chance of not having a recurrence for a long while. Let's hope he's right.

So. We find ourselves in an odd emotional state. Obviously relieved and happy on the one hand, but peculiarly unsettled on the other. Over this past year, we have been pulled along by the urgency of medical appointments and treatments and results and doctor visits. This coming year, we will have to re-learn how to forge our own agenda and rhythm. Most peculiar, indeed.

To be noted is that Val's fatigue is a very real daily hindrance. Wanting to do things is simply not the same as being able to actually do them. We figure this will  be the reality through December.

We'll continue to keep you posted as this process continues to unfold. Thanks for being with us.

xo

Back from holidays

The 31st of August marks our first anniversary of legally married life and is just two months shy of our 21st year of being together. Given what the past  year has consisted of for us - and particularly for Val - these anniversary dates are especially noteworthy for me. (I will leave Val to speak for herself.)

I am not one to laud a relationship merely for its longevity; not always do long years together equate to a good and evolving love. I feel fortunate, then, to be celebrating not only many years with Val, but also our genuinely happy love for each other that has, indeed, evolved over the years into a warm and stimulating companionship that makes life good.

Our holiday time at the cottage was excellent, as it usually is and especially so when we have several weeks in a row to enjoy our spot on Lake Winnipeg with each other. One of the books I read included the line, "...perhaps he saw in us what he wanted for himself, a happy marriage and the time to enjoy it..." And that is what the cottage gives us: plenty of time with each other. Yes, there is a project around every corner, and meals to make and dishes to wash, but even the daily chores seem less onerous and more enjoyable with the expanded time that seems to exist at the lake.

Now it's back to work for me. I'm looking forward to a a few revamped courses this term, and to a technology & teaching conference in Denver in October. I hope you are looking forward to your fall as eagerly.

Val has several medical appointments this coming week. It's been a full year since her first visit with Dr. Brandes; she sees him this week. We will see what he has to say. Stay tuned.

xo