Friday, January 23, 2015

Colin Le Rougetel (1923-2015)



Colin Maxwell Helier Le Rougetel died on January 22nd, just one day shy of his 89th birthday. His death is a blessed release from an earth- and body-bound life that had become a burden to his spirit. He leaves to cherish his memory his beloved wife Anne, his children, Katy (Guy), Amanda (Val), and Charles (Lisa). His grand-sons Max and Sam held a special place in his heart; he loved being their Canada Grand-pa.

Colin was a man who loved and was loved. He embraced life and took on the challenges it brought. Born in Peking (Beijing) because his father was stationed there by the British Foreign Service, Colin was trained to enter the British Navy at Dartmouth Naval College; he served during the tail end of WWII. He left the Navy to attend university, but he met Anne and, like a bolt of lightening (as he always told the story), that was it; he was in life-long love. He left the British Navy, because he wanted to support his wife and the children whom he very much wanted.

Anne and Colin were married in London, England, in 1951, and moved across the Atlantic in 1953 to embark on a new life in Canada; it was a move that served his family well. His work in sales & marketing took him back and forth between Canada and Europe over the next two-plus decades, and his children gained tremendously from the experience: Katy was born in Montreal, Amanda in Toronto, and Charles in Bad-Homburg, Germany. Languages were learned, friends were made, and cultures were explored; we maybe had gaps in our formal education, but we had no shortage of life-lived lessons that formed us and prepared us for our own lives of challenge and change. Colin and Anne’s home was always the place their children’s’ friends congregated for conversation and fun.

Over the last 13 months of his life, Colin was faced with increasing physical difficulties; his body was giving out but his mind remained active. Conversations with his family were had by phone right up to the very evening of the night of his death.

The family thanks everyone who has helped along the way. It takes a village to care for a loved one, and we had a village, indeed. Carmelita, Robert and Brad from Baycrest were wonderful. Ann, Jennifer and Doug Tweddle; Barbara Chan; and Al and Jane Dunbar are family in spirit and in deed. No one could ask for better and truer friends than these.

A celebration of life is being planned in Edmonton for early February. 

Sunday, January 18, 2015

Family update

Well. The New Year has started with sweeping change for the Le Rougetel family.

Colin has been moved from the small regional hospital he had been in since mid-November to a downtown long-term care home. He has been there just over two weeks and it's hard to say he's happy. His physical capacity has diminished and his dependency on the care staff has increased: Who would be happy about that? He struggles on, but often says he would be happier "on the other side". Please hold him in your hearts and wish him God speed on his journey. It is what he says he wants.

The same week that Colin was moved into downtown Edmonton, Anne received a call from the seniors residence complex saying that a suite had become available and it was hers if she wanted it. It took her only about 24 hours, much discussion and an on-site tour to know that it was perfect and perfect timing, too.

Since that time, we have all been poring over the suite layout plans and making trips to IKEA and discussing furniture options. Anne takes possession Feb. 1. I (Amanda) am going out for a long weekend at the end of January and then Val and I will go for about nine days mid-February to help sort out the family home and get Anne ready for the move into Rosedale. All very exciting.

To boot, the family home is now on the market (view listing) and viewings have already begun this weekend. Take a tour and pass it along to anyone who's interested in a good house (that needs updating) in a great neighbourhood (just south of West Edmonton Mall).

Keep your fingers crossed that all continues to move along. Life cycles through the various phases it offers us, and we must simply try to keep up.

I'll keep you posted on news as it develops.
Love,
Amanda

PS: Val is doing well, and I am getting into the swing of the winter term. We are the least of the news these days!

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Christmas 2014 at the cottage

Lake Winnipeg was well and truly frozen, and gorgeous in the (very) crisp winter sunshine. 

My version of a Christmas tree. 
Val got out and about every day, first to fill the bird feeders on our our lot, and then off somewhere for a walk. 

Inside was warm and cozy; our friend Yvonne (right) came up on New Year's Day for a couple of nights. 

Holly is not her most active in the dead of winter! 

Before I arrived, Val and Yvonne went up with Yvonne's dog, Bella, and our friends' dog, Kiwi; they all opened up the cottage and warmed it up from the winter cold. It took a full 24 hours to get the warmth into the woodwork! 

We went through quite a lot of wood in our little Jotl stove. Holly loves the heat. 
I loved walking in the cold - not for hugely long, but a daily walk nonetheless: snowpants, down jacket, wool socks, winter boots, hats and mitts - no problem! 

Nice rosy cheeks! 


Monday, December 22, 2014

Ode to the Winter Solstice...by Val


Ode to the Winter Solstice
&
Season’s Greetings
by
Val the Athiest

The month of December
Is a calendaric monstrosity.
It is a time when chronology
Recapitulates ontological religiosity.

On the winter Solstice,
The Pagans have their say
And, let us be clear…
It is a dark, dark day!

In this dark month
The Eight Days of Chanukah
Are celebrated by the Jews.
Their festival of lights
Claims the victory of the Maccabees
Over those ancient Syrian fools.

On march the Christians
Claiming December 25th as The Most Holy Day.
The Messiah has emerged from the
Virgin’s womb, they shout.
Repent and convert all you
Pagan and Jewish louts!

Luckily the New Year will soon be welcomed in.
A fresh new calendar, a fresh new vision…
Rise up secular humanists and religious moderates,
Rise up spiritual atheists and agnostics.
Let us come together
And save ourselves from dogmatic religious division!

Evolution, evolution stay the course.
Let ontogeny and phylogeny
Guide ontology.
Let a culture of awakening guide
Human consciousness into
A grand, loving and kind tour de force.

Merry Christmas!

Just a quick note to wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

We are spending the holiday break at the cottage; lucky us. It's the first time in three years we've been able to get up there and I am really looking forward to it. Val went up a few days ago with our friend Yvonne. The cottage had been empty since my one overnight in late October. It was cold to the bone when Val and Yvonne arrived on Thursday, and it took a full 24 hours to warm up. The water is running in the taps and the kitchen drains are working as they should. I'm bringing fresh food. What more do we need? Oh yes. There's wine and martini fixings, as well as Scotch. There, now what more do we need?

The outside temps have been like Vancouver recently, although Boxing Day is supposed to bring us proper Manitoba weather again: minus 20 with bright sunshine. Bring it on, say I. These slushy mushy days of drizzle and grey are no way to spend the winter months; at least not in Winnipeg!

Colin is still waiting for a spot in a long-term home. Mum is settling in to her new way of life. Charles, Lisa and Max and Sam are spending a good chunk of time over Christmas with Mum at Willow Way; Katy and her partner, Guy, will spend Christmas Day with Dad and then overnight at Willow Way.

I am tired and grateful to have finally arrived at this evening. The New Year will bring what it will. For the moment, all is well with us. May you be blessed with peace and contentment, wherever you are and however you mark this season.

Love,
Amanda

Thursday, November 20, 2014

More of the same

Colin remains in hospital, where his body continues to chug along and his mind is kept lively by reading books (My Life in France by Julia Childs is his current focus) and chatting on his cell phone to his various family members and friends. It will take some time to find a long-term care home placement for him, but that is the plan. 

Meanwhile, Anne is accommodating to life on her own at Willow Way. From our frequent conversations with her, it seems that visitors come and go often (some bringing shopping, others doing chores around the house, some just visiting). Last week, she was taken out by friends to celebrate her 86th birthday, which took place officially on Nov. 4th.

In Winnipeg, Val and Amanda are both in various stages of a regular head cold. We should be through it all by next week, here's hoping anyway. 

Winter has arrived with some snow and some cold. Nothing like poor Buffalo got and thank goodness for that! 

The new garage is wonderful: We drive in and out, using the automatic door, with great pleasure. 

I don't remember Dad with a beard, but he grew one for many years. I do remember him smoking, and all his various attempts to quit, which he eventually did in the early 70s when we lived in England. 

Mum celebrating her 86th birthday with friends recently. 

Our car parked, as we used to do it. 

Our car parked, as we now do it. It's a tight fit, not an inch wasted, not a problem. 

The structure itself in all its not-yet-sided glory. That will come in the spring. 



Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Colin update

Colin remains in hospital, now in a 2-bed room, and holding his own. Today, Anne and her good friend Connie procured a new cell phone with a call-all-you-want monthly plan and took it to Colin; he is now, once again, in touch with the outside world. He likes chatting on the phone. 

Where this is all going, we don't know, but going home to Willow Way is no longer an option; he just needs too much care. So. Anne is adjusting to life without full-time nursing duties, and Colin waits to see if a nursing home bed comes open sooner...or later. 

In the mean time, I've found a few photos from Colin's younger days. He was a truly dashing young man. 


Colin, circa 1961 (maybe '62). Katy on left, Amanda on right. 




Colin with his lovely Aunty Marjie; she is the aunt who rode on the back of his motorcycle (see below) and who was an entrepreneurial importer of coffee. Here is the accurate story, courtesy of Anne: "Aunty Marjie's coffee business was special. the coffee was called Blue Danube, a Viennese type roast that included figs; only high-class grocers stocked it, for the enjoyment of connoisseurs, so it was a fairly limited market. Marjie and her brother Geoffrey started the business and created the roast  from their memories of coffee they had  enjoyed in Vienna." A woman ahead of her time. This photo is from 1948.

Colin looks younger here than in the photo by the fireplace. Mum tells me this photo is from 1942.